I try not to write about current events because for the most part I’m not qualified or important enough to think that anyone may benefit from it. The same goes for here. You don’t care about my opinion on the “Fifty Shades of Grey” movie, but here it is anyway.
Apparently there is quite the debate going on in Christian culture about this movie (something about stylized sexual violence towards women?? Fun!) and I find a few things odd. I didn’t read the books and have no intention of seeing the movie as we don’t watch rated-R movies (Personal choice. There’s enough bad stuff in PG-13 movies anyway, so let it be known I’m not “judging”).
Here’s my beef:
1. Why this movie? Is there not plenty of sex in other movies that Christians watch all the time? Why did we decide that this particular one was worth shaming people out of seeing? Because it’s marketed to women? I truly don’t know, but I find it weird that we are obsessing over this one when there’s plenty of horrible movies with horrible things in them out there.
2. This article that many of my friends are sharing. Ok, if you’re going to bring Jesus into, let’s do it. The author makes the argument that Jesus never scolded the Romans on their apparently orgy-filled, x-rated culture. I would say this, Jesus didn’t go to Rome either. So wouldn’t that be the same as saying, just don’t go see the movie? In Romans, Paul writes to the believers in Rome, and that’s a tough letter. And it’s to the believers. They didn’t completely ignore Roman culture as Roman culture was everywhere, they did address sexuality though.
And the author does something that is one of my biggest pet peeves, misuses the word “judging”. Biblically speaking, we know that we aren’t to judge, as in we have no say in who goes to heaven and who goes to hell. That’s not our call, not for us to say, not even to be a thought we entertain. Ok, now that we are past that, it doesn’t mean we aren’t allowed to have an opinion, practice good judgement, or exhibit discernment. If I say I think the movie sounds gross and I don’t understand the draw, that’s not “judging” anyone. Come on, lady who wrote this, you should know better.
3. Jesus wants our hearts. Christians know this. And honestly, if you’re a non-believer reading this, feel free to check out now. But wasn’t it Jesus who told us lust is the same as adultery? Isn’t that the same reason we fight against the grotesque tide of a culture that celebrates pornography? Did I miss something? Jesus wants us to guard our hearts and minds. Make wise choices that don’t lead us into sin. We know that we can’t be tempted beyond what God will provide a way out of. So, if you are a mindful believer and you think this movie may have you fall into lust, don’t go see the movie.
Honestly, I don’t care if people see the movie or not. Just be self-aware enough, if you’re a believer, to know that you may lose a little credibility in the guarding your heart and mind department if you put it on blast on Facebook.
You all probably know my situation. I have stage 4 cancer and am a Christ-follower. I fall short, I make mistakes, I’m no where close to perfect. If you think I am perfect, just disregard the previous sentence and carry on (kidding!). I write this blog for many reasons, one of which is that so if I’m not around for my kids as they grow up and they would want to know what I think about stuff if they’re curious, they can check it out. I imagine by the time they’re teenagers there will be a lot worse things out there than 50 Shades.
Am I wrong? Curious what you all think. Please be civil and kind in the replies. And again, not “judging” so please don’t even go there.