Confession time: I am a people pleaser. I like people to like me and I’m super non-confrontational. In fact when I know someone doesn’t like me (shocking that that could even happen right?? I’m so freaking loveable!) it like practically eats away at me. My husband will attest to this. And if there’s a problem? Oh you better believe if there’s a passive-aggressive way to confront it that is exactly how I’ll do it! I always say if I was a dog, I’d be a golden retriever – anytime someone was mad at me I’d just roll over and pee at their feet. (That may sound gross but if you’ve ever had a golden then you know exactly what I mean…)
But being liked should never be my goal. Maybe it will be a pleasant outcome of servanthood and speaking truth in love. But…it may not. And I need to accept that. Let’s face it, the saying “the truth hurts” rings true for a reason. I remind myself of this verse in Galatians surprisingly often as “people pleasing” is very natural for me. But I am praising God that He continually convicts me in my sin of seeking comfort.
Let’s take blogging for an example, if I really wanted to please people I would check my stats and comments and traffic and only write on those topics that get the most views. I don’t check stats anymore but I do occasionally get a notification about when an abnormal amount of people are checking out my blog.
Do you wanna know what the big seller is? Dying. Death and being scared about dying or talking about facing death in general. I get the sort of morbid curiosity, trust me I do, but can you imagine if in my bid to get views and please people that was all I wrote about? But you know what? A few years ago, I probably would have done just that. “Oh, posts that mention Jesus directly and have some sort of call to action do significantly worse. I don’t wanna step on toes, I better just stick to cancer and vague references to faith.”
Nope. My seeking people’s approval so they like me isn’t doing anyone any favors. And certainly casually mentioning faith in a cancer blog without directly correlating the unfathomable peace and comfort that comes from a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and the sense of fulfillment and purpose in direct and meaningful service to Him would be hurting the cause.
Truth hurts. But I’m gonna keep saying it because truth transformed me and my entire life into something worth living. Who am I to deny that for someone else?
Before I could come to know Christ personally I had to confront some pretty ugly truths about myself. And I have nothing in my heart but gratitude for the people who never sugar-coated the gospel just to please me. I think I can do the same service for others.
And if you don’t like it, too bad!
….please don’t hate me 😉